THEY are well educated young couple. We live together with them by sharing a flat. It is always joyous for first timer parent to know they are in the process of welcoming their first ever baby to their couple life. We were happy to learn that his wife is in pregnancy when I am being told few months ago. They only knew the gender of baby on couple weeks ago. They were visibly happy with the news of baby boy following scan result in KK Women and Children hospital. We all shared their joyous moment as the young parent server flatmates with pizzar dinner. My wife and I don't know why we are also happy to learn their new member of family would be boy. Perhaps most of our friends couple these days are delivering baby girls than boys. Though our culture has no favorable gender, parent are apparent to prefer getting boy. It is unwritten feeling.
For the young couple, lacking male siblings from maternal sides would be one of the reason why they were overjoy by the news. Sadly their good news didn't last long for them. Approximately about couple weeks and it all up side down. My wife and I were shocked to learn that his wife has been miscarriage and 21 weeks old baby boy was prematurely delivered to depth. It is disaster for young couple. We perfectly know how much they have tried their best to figure it out to promote their life style from couple life to family life. He is working as scientist and he did well in family planning. He and his wife approached to medical consultant to check their health status before entering to a process of trying to get baby. It all went quite smooth to the given medical results. It apparent started few months back when a young woman encounters bleeding from his ovary strangely. They continuously consulted with OG and visit very frequently. Once they were needed to admit to hospital for overnight stay to treat her well.
Good news from disaster is that young woman able to deliver conventionally and allowed to discharge on the same day. The 21 weeks old dead baby was left behind following suggestion of OG. We learned that less than 23 weeks baby born dead would not be issued dead certificate. Hence, medical professional advised the young couple not to claim dead body so that they could avoid unnecessary cost. But it is up to parent to decide. My friend couple choose to follow OG's advice and come back home in deadman's walking. In addition, there was one more thing to feel lucky from this disaster. This is that if this incident happened on few weeks later and baby boy is born alive, they'll have to leave the baby in hospital for 200 days compulsory. Of course it won't come free to them who are SPR. The hospital estimates the cost would be approximately at S$200,000.00. Then their saving would have been burn to zero. If they are not lucky enough, the baby would be paralyses person for the whole life and it is going to be a heavy burden to the young couple to shoulder.
I tried to console him by highlighting the good points from the merciless disaster. Being Buddhist, we have to believe in karma. Nothing happen to us without reason. Whatever we did in past life, the sequence will follow us in present life. We can't run away and have to accept it. If we do not have necessary understanding of basic principle of Buddha literature, we would be distraught when we suddenly face life's disaster like the young couple is facing now. I'm relief to see them not so grief after I remind them that what most important is the health of wife. I'm convinced that the young couple have enough time to make another healthy baby in near future and he is apparent to agree with me.
May all young parents able to possess a healthy babies at their early family life.
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